DEAR ABBY: A few months ago, I moved from my mother’s house to an apartment with a friend who I had rekindled a friendship with in high school a few years ago.
The first month I noticed that she had eaten a few of my frozen meals, so I confronted her about it. She started crying and told me she was expecting a new debit card in the mail and had little money to get it through until the card arrived. I told her she should have said something and that I would have gladly left some of my food for her, but her not asking was rude because I rely on these frozen meals for quick and easy lunches at work .
I finished the lunch box and bought a new one. It was a large box with six packages inside. I intentionally left it closed to see if she would steal food from me again. Lo and behold, a month later, I went to open the box and saw that she had taken two.
How can I face him a second time? She doesn’t have a car, so she works in Uber, which adds up, and she spends hundreds of dollars on her anime hobby. If I can’t trust him with little things like food and snacks, how am I supposed to trust him? We just signed a two-year lease, and I can’t sublet. – HUNGER FOR HONESTY
DEAR HUNGRY: I’m sorry to say, but your roommate has proven he can’t be trusted. Are his problems financial or emotional? Cross your fingers and hope she can pay the rent every month. If you can afford it, buy a small fridge for your room, put a strong padlock on the door and use it to secure ALL of your belongings until the lease expires. If your roommate asks why the lock and refrigerator are installed, confront her again.
DEAR ABBY: I’m writing about the letter you published April 3 in “Incredulous in Oklahoma.” She said her boyfriend falls into a deep sleep that lasts three days every two or three weeks, during which time he becomes abusive. Abby, her symptoms could be caused by a rare neurological disorder called Kleine-Levin syndrome. Your readers can learn more about it by visiting the ninds.nih.gov website and selecting the Health Information tab to search for this disorder. — MARIAM IN FLORIDA
DEAR MARIAM: Thank you for your contribution. Several other readers also mentioned that this disorder could be a possible explanation for the boyfriend’s behavior. When I read his letter, I wasn’t sure if he was “on” something, had an allergic reaction to medication, or felt unwell. That’s why I suggested he might need to be physically and neurologically examined by a medical professional.
DEAR ABBY: My husband didn’t have a close relationship with his parents. Now that they’re both dead, he imitates them – wearing suspenders like his dad, drinking beer in the garage, having a TV in every room. His screensavers are from “Dad”. What is the problem? – PERRPLEXED WIFE IN UTAH
DEAR WIFE: I think you should ask your husband this question gently. He may not realize that he is modeling his father’s behavior. It can be a surefire way to maintain a bond with that dear old dad or proof that a behavioral influence can be passed down from generation to generation, but don’t create trouble where there isn’t one.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.